.: Nothing else matters #2

Life can be tough sometimes. What does really matter then ? Money? Friends? Love? Cosa conta davvero quando la vita ti dà addosso ? Of course material things are important, but if you can’t see their value, things may not help. Famous suicidals tell us. People who had fame, money and all sort of things were not happy anyway. Devo ricordarvi qualche nome di gente famosa afflitta da depressioni devastanti ? Non credo. Quindi, avere soldi, cose, un lavoro fantastico, può non bastare. What really matters, I think, it’s presence. What do I mean by “presence” ? Something not listed in the “Presence” page of wikipedia. No, not even the Presence album by Led Zeppelin 😀

Presence is the ability to live in the present moment. The ability to set your mind on the here and now. Io chiamo “presenza” la capacità di mantenere l’attenzione nel momento presente. Spesso la nostra mente si allontana dal “qui e ora”. Our mind can wander, in the past or in an imaginary future. But most times it is an unuseful effort. E’inutile vagare con la mente nel passato o immaginare un futuro che nessuno conosce. La cosa non fa altro che portarci via da noi stessi (e da chi ci vuole bene). Non sto dicendo che non sia utile riflettere sulle esperienze passate o pianificare il futuro. I’m not saying reflecting upon past experiences or planning for the future is a bad thing. I’m saying it’s important to be centered in the only time-place which is real: now. Seems easy, but most people can’t do it (or could but don’t). Depression or other such problems, imho, come just from the inability to mantain presence. Your mind wanders too much and you get prisoner of such fancy thoughts, as if they were real. But they’re not. Se si lascia libero il cervello di costruire labirinti di pensieri, si rischia di restarne prigionieri e di non vedere la realtà che ci sta intorno. Presence also includes a sense of equilibrium. The ability to see the good things in our life and the possibilities to reach good goals. La presenza include anche quell’equilibrio che permette di essere ottimisti e realisti circa il buono che c’è nella propria vita e le possibilità di raggiungere degli obiettivi. Con costanza.
Losing your job, losing money, losing friends, getting sick or being disable can be hard things to face, but if you have presence, if you love yourself and life itself, you can overcome most problems. And nothing else matters. I think.

So remember: you can cook. The only thing you need is presence and…

… pasta, ham, cheese, onion, evo oil and patience 🙂

Cook pasta in the salted water. make an onion sautéed. Put the boiled pasta in the sautéed, add ham and make cheese melt. Easy uh ?

Buon appetito ! Cosa ? Volete anche il dopo pranzo ? You want something for relaxing after lunch ? Ok.

Amélie Nothomb

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